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And Then There Were Four.

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Sometimes I find myself in a slight sort of panic while at the same time reveling the fact that I can look at Chris and say things like, “Where should we take the kids today?”  These last two weeks have been an amazing transition from a family of three to a family of four.  With having one child already, I wasn’t sure what to expect with bringing a second, a newborn, into the equation.  Would it be easier? Harder? One thing we have found is that the natural rhythm of life is a little harder to find.  I’m getting there, it’s a little slow going at times, but I’m getting there.  I’m still physically healing, though this natural delivery has been much easier on me than my medically-enhanced, epidural filled first delivery, and have been doing so much since the day I got home.  I do have a post coming later on the miracle that is Brayden’s natural delivery, but I’m still working on it (or working on starting it) all the while attached to my sweet, little snacker who’s made it quite clear from the beginning that he’s a boob man and could be completely content to be nestled into my chest all day long.  All this to say, thank you for being patient with me.  Posting has been a little light, and may be for a little while as I continue to figure out our family’s new rhythm… and type one-handed.

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Aliyah has done extremely well with this transition, and from the moment she layed eyes on her little brother, he has been her new favorite person in all the world.  If there’s a moment that she even has a chance to just look at him, she’ll take it.  Just the other day, Chris was holding Brayden and was on a phone call.  As he’d walk around the living room, Aliyah grabbed her step stool and each time Chris would stop pacing, she’d scoot right up to him, stand on her perch and admire the swaddled little bundle that was being cradled in front of her.  I am so proud of her, and this whole experience has made me adore, appreciate and love her even more that I knew I could.  This is just one of the many times when the new rhythm takes on a soft melody, where everyone is happy, peaceful, smiling and kissing.  
And then there are the times where it takes on more of a rock band concert meets blues fest, while at the same time listening to the horrifying out-takes from the early episodes of American Idol.

For instance, last Tuesday, after Aliyah had a long day followed by gymnastics, and we were on the way home, we had to make a stop.  Usually Brayden just sleeps once the car starts and doesn’t wake up until about an hour after we arrive at our destination.  This time, he was hungry.  This time, he would be fine as long as the car was moving, but God-forbid IF THE CAR STOPS, we were going to hear about it.  So, at our stop, Chris went into the store while I waited in the car with the kids and after about all of 30 seconds, Brayden realized the car had stopped moving.  All the while, Aliyah was trying to get over the fact that her gymnastics teacher didn’t have suckers at the end of class like she did last time, and so was not in the best of moods while trying to watch a movie on her iPhone (yes, her iPhone, and no, it’s not activated…. more on that later).  After listening to about a minute of the newborn wails, Aliyah cries, “Brayden, please STOP IT!” and continues crying.  With each squeal Brayden made, Aliyah made one a little louder.  It took all that was in me to not cry myself, and I actually ended up laughing.  I’m sure anyone that walked by the car at that moment had wondered if it would be best to call the authorities, lest I was a mommy that was “losing it.”  
All of this is what makes up the dynamic of a family of four.  All of this makes me happier than I’ve ever been in my life. All of this makes me stare at each contour and adore every feature of each of my kids, because each one changes so quickly.

And oh my, the crying.  Mine, not theirs.  Maybe it’s the hormones, the RAGING, BOISTEROUS HORMONES, or the lack of sleep, but all of this makes me cry daily… and smile.

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Comments

  1. Tracy says

    I am so happy for you Tabitha! You have a beautiful family!! I can only imagine the adjustment it is to another baby and trying to balance your first baby too… when you figure it out, can you tell me too? I need to start now learning about it because a year will be here sooner than I realize and we’ll be trying for #2…

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  2. Pam says

    Its all about change, all along our life…before long it will be so easy and you will wonder what it was like with just the one! They grow fast, enjoy. Mine were 6.5 yrs. apart and my daughter was a really awesome help with her brother.

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  5. Crystal Rae says

    WOnderful picture of course, and i love that when you tell people about your life it’s relate able… 2 crying kids would make any new momma want to cry, and you don’t let anyone think other wise. I hope I’m making sense. Thanks for being REAL!

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  6. BeckeyZ says

    Oh, it will get easier…but there will definitely be those moments. Laughing is a perfect response (crying is normal, but laughing is probably much healthier).

    Enjoy every micro-second, because they grow up WAY too fast.

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  7. Prasti says

    yes, finding that rhythm is a little more slow going the 2nd time around it seems. but you will get there :). your kids are beautiful.

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  8. Jaina says

    You paint everything so beautifully realistic. I’m so happy for you and your family. I seriously hope that when the time comes for us that we are as happy as you. 🙂

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  10. Gerri says

    Wow, Tab what an adventure. It is AWEsome. I am learning from you. You speak about the beauty in such a lovely way and speak about the rocky-bluesy times with such grace. Thanks for helping this thirty-somehing/almost forty feel a bit more at ease at my upcoming AWEsome adventures! Love you girl.

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  12. Paul says

    Parenting is an awesome privileged given to us by God and it’s insanely fun too! The thing that is hard for us parents to remember is this, “We are suppose to be working ourselves out of a job”.

    Paul Kern

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  16. Jeremy Barancik says

    Ha! I get it “Blues fest” nice one! Anyway, I can just imagine 2 crying kids and you laughing that would be a site! Also, this quote is for you

    “Life must be understood backwards; but… it must be lived forward.” Soren Kierkegaard

    You guys will get you’re rhythm back soon.

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  21. Tooj says

    Oh, I have lost count the times strangers should have called me for looking like a “losing it” mom. 🙂 And the tears….oh the tears. I’m sincerely hoping that come June and baby 3, I will have my mind right to NOT be as crazy as I was with OJ. Fingers crossed.

    I’m happy to hear that Aliyah is adjusting and loving the changes. Kids are resilient and embrace change so much more quickly than we ever do. I think we should take a note from their outlook.

    Happy Sunday!

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